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“The relationship isn’t born out of decision. That’s why Scott Peck says that “Falling in love” is never real love. Why? Love is always a decision. And falling in love requires no decision. (I have yet to meet someone who says, “I’ll decide to fall right now. Ready, one, two, three…. Ooops!”) When you fall, you don’t decide to fall. It just happens. You stumble. You trip. You get dizzy. And you fall. So it’s counterfeit love.” -Bo Sanchez
During an open forum, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The speaker then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the speaker.
Here’s the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their individual or unique characteristics . Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s individual or unique characteristics , instead of being cute, it’ll drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: It’s not pre-determined who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..
As I remembered last year, I was praying to GOD that I want to work in abroad and I accompanied it with action. I applied different companies and agencies. I prayed that I can be able to get a job that is not illegal, to live in a safe accommodation and to have a good and trusting friends. GOD answ
When we have faith in God we are saying that we have confidence that He is able to do all things that we hope for and ask for without any physical proof that it will happen and we will demonstrate our faith by putting action to our belief. If I am praying for a house and lot, I will begin saving my salary and reading on how to get a house and lot, I will seek guidance on the right lender to use and so forth. If I am praying to travel around the world, I will search the beautiful places I wanted to go and let GOD allow me to visit that place. :-)
You can’t say you have faith that you will eat a good meal tonight, but go home and sit in the kitchen looking at the stove. You have to prepare the meal. At the end of the day you must put your faith into action. God wants to see what you will do. God wants to see how much you believe that He will manifest the miracles in your life by the action that you put into life.
Faith without works is dead, so get to work! Stop crying and praying and praying and crying for God to move in your life if you are not going to get off of your rear-end and go to work! Nothing in life comes easy and if you want to see God move in your life, take the first step and go to work! I dare you to begin walking in your destiny by planning and preparing for the harvest. God is not one who can lie and if He gave you the vision and the desire than He is faithful to deliver. It’s time for us to do our part and get to work!
UNDERSTANDING comes from comes from LOVE.
You might believe that you need to understand another to love them. The truth is you need to love them to understand them.m LOVE. You might believe that you need to understand another to love them. The truth is you need to love them to understand them.
The plans that God has for you will cause you to soar like an eagle. So stop guessing about who you are and know whose you are. You belong to God, so there is no reason not to be excited about life. God is bigger than any situation that you may face, so tell Him about it and you don’t worry about it. He got it and He got you. For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future..” (Jeremiah 29:11)
God u know my heart and u know my desire. There are things that get in the way to get closer to u. I need u to strengthen me and help me to over come temptation so I could be right with you. Don’t turn your back on me I need you more than ever Holy Spirit. You have the solution and the best remedy. So Father give me a second chance and forgive me cause I am weak.
Sometimes in our lives we don’t understand the purpose of God but we have to trust in him. He will come on time and take control. Our Lord does not forsake his children. God is faithful and he will never turn his back on us. Lets be obedient and do what GOD has called us. You will see the glory of God in your life and your family.
Proverbs 19:21 “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails”.